the closeness you desire

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is based on attachment science. The development of each child's self-esteem, lovability and overall security are informed by receiving an attuned response to each child's needs from infancy onwards. In order to minimize distress suffered in early family relationships, children carry unmet needs forward, whether they continue to protect through protective posturing/withdrawing, defensive attitudes or urgent pleas for attention. Parents thus maintain a felt sense of "the child is the problem", as old behaviors continue to reignite familiar family dynamics. 

Dr. Sue Johnson and others are responsible for developing a family roadmap for creating new trust through parents being guided to taking on a new and attuned position to their children. Children (even as adults) finally feel deeply heard and understood in ways they have always longed for, and now can access and respond to by sharing truth at a new level of vulnerability.

EFT addresses the deeper issues of human need for connection that surface in relationship with others. EFT acknowledges that neither the parent nor child are the problem...  but the old cycle of interaction between.  Once the cycle is revealed by the parental intent to care and protect and received by the child in a new and present way, old dynamics are organically replaced with a better operating system. EFT effectively offer the means to safe and lasting bonds that alter the structure of a relationship.